Friday, December 9, 2011

A Gift from Dad

Something happened last evening that I can only explain as a gift.  Let me set the scene.

Susan and I walked across the street to our default restaurant last evening.  The place was packed and we ended up sitting at the only 2 remaining seats in the place at the end of the bar.  Worst seats in the house.  After a little while, a barbershop quartet came in and were standing behind us waiting to perform at a private party in an adjacent room.  I couldn't resist kibitzing with them as they waited, got one of their cards, all the usual chit-chat.  Nice guys.  After a few minutes, they were called into their party and I assumed that was that.

When they finished their gig in the other room, they came back out and, unsolicited, gathered tight around Susan and me.  They spoke briefly amongst themselves, hit a button on a little device to give them the right key, then sang a short version of My Wild Irish Rose.  Then they were gone.

Susan and I were in tears - tears of joy.  I may never really know the explaination of why what happened happened, but I do know that I will cherish and hold onto that moment for what it certainly felt like - a gift from Dad.


Monday, November 21, 2011

More Than a Year

Mom visited Susan and me in Los Angeles a few weeks ago. She's doing fine and we had a great time while she was here.

I've thought a lot about reopening this blog to talk about how much I miss my Dad, but it seemed (seems) either maudlin or self-indulgent or both. Regardless, here I am.

Over the past year and a half, I have missed Dad every day.  I know God has a plan and that He works it out in ways that are beyond my understanding.

INTERNAL MUSING - I wonder why it is that we humans find it so hard to admit, acknowledge or accept that there is a power beyond our understanding. In other words, why can't we be comfortable with the fact that we can't understand everything? We have no difficulty understanding and living with limitations in other aspects of life.
We accept physical limitations without any apparent angst. Same with emotional limitations. It seems only when we run up against our intellectual shortcomings that we flinch and rationalize our way to the false comfort that "maybe we don't know now, but it's only a matter of time." Really? We don't rationalize that "maybe no one has run a 30 second mile, but it's only a matter of time," so why are we do feel the need to rationalize intellectual shortcomings? End internal musing.
It is so easy to flail about (mentally) and say that it's not fair that Dad's been taken away. But, when I stop and really think about it, it's arguably even less fair ("fair" in this sense as getting what we think we have coming to us) that we got to have him around in the first place. Think of the impact that he had on your life and and answer the question - Did you get what you deserved? When I answer that question honestly, I have to admit I got much more than I had coming from my relationship with Miles Runner. Much, much more.

So, I've been trying to focus on the blessing of having been graced
with Dad in my life (grace being the means by which we get what we don't deserve). By doing so, that he is gone from this world is made more bearable. And, I have grateful heart that enables me to make an effort - pitifully limited though it is - to reach others the way Dad did.

Blessings,
Woody


Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Talbott Website Obituary

Brother Terry Shorr passes this along:

"After the wonderful party Saturday to celebrate the life of Miles Runner, I have smiled again tonight upon finding among tributes on the web site for Talbott Funeral Home the following. In nearly 70 years I do not recall a comment from a separate funeral establishment two counties away. Miles truly will be with us, always."

The Staff of Bartlett Funeral Home, Grafton, WV [2010-04-27 10:24:21]
We did not know Miles, however, after reading his obituary this morning, we wish we had. We are frequent writers of obituaries and thought that his was a true tribute to a life well lived. When else can you read an obituary that makes you laugh? Our condolences to his family, friends and the bartenders, it sounds like he was someone who savored life and will certainly be missed.


Click here to see more comments from the Talbott Funeral Home website.

Sunday, May 23, 2010

Thank You, Thank You, Thank You!!!

Thanks to all who attended the party on May 22nd in Elkins! The celebration of Dad's life was a rousing success (in my unbiased opinion, of course). It was a genuine treat to have so many family members and friends around.

If you have pictures from the party that you would like to share, please email them to Elkins.Runner at gmail.com and I'll post them on this site.

Thanks again for all of your love, prayers and support for Mom and the rest of the family over these past months.

Thursday, May 6, 2010

May 22 - Party is On

W. Miles Runner
1933-2010
invites his friends-neighbors
classmates, et al, to join his family
for a celebration of his life.

Saturday, May 22, 3:00 ~ 6:00 PM

Halliehurst
Davis & Elkins College
Elkins, WV
Questions, call 304-637-1031

Friday, April 30, 2010

Thank You

For Mom and the rest of the family, thank you so much for your support over these past four months. Your prayers and warm wishes have bolstered us in ways too numerous to count.

Then maidens will dance and be glad,
young men and old as well.
I will turn their mourning into gladness;
I will give them comfort and joy instead of sorrow.
~Jeremiah 31:13 (NIV)

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. For just as the sufferings of Christ flow over into our lives, so also through Christ our comfort overflows.
~
2 Corinthians 1:3-5 (NIV)

Save the Date - May 22nd

Save the Date - May 22, 2010

We're planning a party to celebrate Miles Runner's life. The party will be May 22nd at Halliehurst on the Davis & Elkins College campus. The exact time remains to be worked out, but we're thinking about an early afternoon start.

Please check back at this site for details.

Sunday, April 25, 2010

From a Friend

Friend Peter Roberts sent a favorite by Robert Frost, along with his own very special poem and the photo that inspired it.

Stopping By Woods on a Snowy Evening
Whose woods these are I think I know.

His house is in the village though;

He will not see me stopping here

To watch his woods fill up with snow.



My little horse must think it queer

To stop without a farmhouse near

Between the woods and frozen lake


The darkest evening of the year.



He gives his harness bells a shake

To ask if there is some mistake.

The only other sound's the sweep

Of easy wind and downy flake.




The woods are lovely, dark and deep.

But I have promises to keep,


And miles to go before I sleep,

And miles to go before I sleep.

– Robert Frost


Miles by Home’s Wood
These woods did watch that wintry night
Whose heart was rent begin his fight
With loved ones’ strength to see the spring
Yet finally, there comes the flight.

So rising up on downy wing
To end the ache and comfort bring
Some painful miles were past this way,
Yet even then, love’s heart did sing.

For in the light of this spring day,
Among these trees the voices say
“We filled with love before we wept,
S’miles of joy, now let us pray.”

These woods aren’t lonely in their depth,
Miles’ fine promises he kept.
Oh, Miles did run before he slept.
How Miles will fly when he has leapt.

– Peter Roberts


Saturday, April 24, 2010

W. Miles Runner - October 28, 1933-April 23, 2010


Dad wrote his obituary and (with a few friendly edits) this is what he had to say.

Miles Runner, son of William E. (“Bill”) Runner and Helen E. Miles, began his life 28 October 1933 at Clarksburg, spending his younger years in Elkins and Clarksburg, and later Bridgeport, before retiring in Elkins. His school years at St. Mary’s High School in Clarksburg and Davis & Elkins College were happy times for him. Basketball was one of his passions and played from sixth grade through college (with a couple years service in the U.S. Army sandwiched in at that time). His last competitive game was at the Senior Games in 1997 at Tucson, Arizona.

Miles often said that he was not going to leave this world, but an apparent glitch in those plans occurred April 23, 2010, when he passed away. He leaves his lovely bride of nearly 55 years, Ruth “Noodie” Ritter Runner, and four sons: Wm. Harwood “Woody” Runner and his wife Susan of Fort Worth, Texas; John Miles Runner and his wife Charlene of Newport News, Virginia; Erik W. Runner and his partner Glenn Chandler of Mamaroneck, New York; and Michael “Mike” Runner of Bridgeport, West Virginia. Also surviving are six grandchildren: Kristen Runner of Fort Worth, Texas; Elizabeth and her husband Drew Parker of Houston, Texas; John Miles Runner II and his wife Kyoko of Newport News, Virginia; Christopher "Chris" Runner, a Clarksburg fireman; Jake and Molly Runner and their mom Trina, of Bridgeport; and a great grandson, Ichiro Miles Runner of Newport News, Virginia. He is also survived by his brother Terry Shorr of Charleston West Virginia, his sister Becky Runner Hunt of Manahawkin New Jersey and several nieces and nephews.

Miles was generally a pleasant person who loved his family very much. He was opinionated, readily expressing a point of view on most anything and everything. He enjoyed being politically incorrect and was amused frequently by the reactions of those unsure of his intentions.

Miles had a successful career with Mead Johnson Laboratories from 1961 through his retirement in 1990. He was active in the community, having served at one time or another through the years as volunteer coach for Pop Warner football and Jerry West basketball, participated in the Bridgeport Stagecrafters, and was a member of the Jaycees. Most recently, Miles was active with the Tygarts Valley Lions Club, Davis Health System Foundation Board, Davis & Elkins College Alumni Council and other organizations. He was one of the founders of the Central West Virginia Scientific Association, an organization formed to advance and expand the professional and social skills of its members.

An avid hat collector, his collection included a wide variety of hats from all over the world-Paraguay, England, Germany, Italy, Ireland, Barbados, and who knows where else. He even wore them on occasion and could usually "pull it off."

His two favorite holidays ( not necessarily in this order ) were St. Patrick's Day and Halloween, and he was known to don a dress if it would elicit a laugh. Robert W. Service was a favorite poet, especially his Cremation of Sam McGee. Miles dabbled in etymology, and just this past December declared himself a wag. As a member of the Brooks Bird Club he sometimes assisted with the fall banding and hawk counts. He diligently researched in preparation for his debates with grandson Miles, taking the opposition in whatever the subject.

Miles will be remembered for his sense of humor and for being a good friend. He will be greatly missed by family, friends and at least two bartenders in Elkins.

He had a very fulfilling and enjoyable life, often saying that he felt it was much better than he deserved. To quote him, "La vita e bella", life is good.

It was Miles' wish to be cremated, with no visitation and no service - just a party. The family invites friends to join them in the celebration of Miles' life, as per his wishes, at a date in the near future.

Expressions of sympathy may be made by way of contributions to the Harrison County Catholic Schools System, 127 East Pike Street, Clarksburg, WV 26301 or Davis & Elkins College Athletic Department, 100 Campus Drive, Elkins, WV 26241.

Dad's Favorite Poem

This was Dad's favorite poem...

The Cremation of Sam McGee
by Robert Service

There are strange things done in the midnight sun
By the men who moil for gold;
The Arctic trails have their secret tales
That would make your blood run cold;
The Northern Lights have seen queer sights,
But the queerest they ever did see
Was that night on the marge of Lake Lebarge
I cremated Sam McGee.

Now Sam McGee was from Tennessee, where the cotton blooms and blows.
Why he left his home in the South to roam 'round the Pole, God only knows.
He was always cold, but the land of gold seemed to hold him like a spell;
Though he'd often say in his homely way that "he'd sooner live in hell."

On a Christmas Day we were mushing our way over the Dawson trail.
Talk of your cold! through the parka's fold it stabbed like a driven nail.
If our eyes we'd close, then the lashes froze till sometimes we couldn't see;
It wasn't much fun, but the only one to whimper was Sam McGee.

And that very night, as we lay packed tight in our robes beneath the snow,
And the dogs were fed, and the stars o'erhead were dancing heel and toe,
He turned to me, and "Cap," says he, "I'll cash in this trip, I guess;
And if I do, I'm asking that you won't refuse my last request."

Well, he seemed so low that I couldn't say no; then he says with a sort of moan:
"It's the cursèd cold, and it's got right hold, till I'm chilled clean through to the bone.
Yet 'tain't being dead — it's my awful dread of the icy grave that pains;
So I want you to swear that, foul or fair, you'll cremate my last remains."

A pal's last need is a thing to heed, so I swore I would not fail;
And we started on at the streak of dawn; but God! he looked ghastly pale.
He crouched on the sleigh, and he raved all day of his home in Tennessee;
And before nightfall a corpse was all that was left of Sam McGee.

There wasn't a breath in that land of death, and I hurried, horror-driven,
With a corpse half hid that I couldn't get rid, because of a promise given;
It was lashed to the sleigh, and it seemed to say: "You may tax your brawn and brains,
But you promised true, and it's up to you, to cremate those last remains."

Now a promise made is a debt unpaid, and the trail has its own stern code.
In the days to come, though my lips were dumb, in my heart how I cursed that load.
In the long, long night, by the lone firelight, while the huskies, round in a ring,
Howled out their woes to the homeless snows — Oh God! how I loathed the thing.

And every day that quiet clay seemed to heavy and heavier grow;
And on I went, though the dogs were spent and the grub was getting low;
The trail was bad, and I felt half mad, but I swore I would not give in;
And I'd often sing to the hateful thing, and it hearkened with a grin.

Till I came to the marge of Lake Lebarge, and a derelict there lay;
It was jammed in the ice, but I saw in a trice it was called the "Alice May."
And I looked at it, and I thought a bit, and I looked at my frozen chum;
Then "Here," said I, with a sudden cry, "is my cre-ma-tor-eum."

Some planks I tore from the cabin floor, and I lit the boiler fire;
Some coal I found that was lying around, and I heaped the fuel higher;
The flames just soared, and the furnace roared — such a blaze you seldom see;
And I burrowed a hole in the glowing coal, and I stuffed in Sam McGee.

Then I made a hike, for I didn't like to hear him sizzle so;
And the heavens scowled, and the huskies howled, and the wind began to blow.
It was icy cold, but the hot sweat rolled down my cheeks, and I don't know why;
And the greasy smoke in an inky cloak went streaking down the sky.

I do not know how long in the snow I wrestled with grisly fear;
But the stars came out and they danced about ere again I ventured near;
I was sick with dread, but I bravely said: "I'll just take a peep inside.
I guess he's cooked, and it's time I looked"; ... then the door I opened wide.

And there sat Sam, looking cool and calm, in the heart of the furnace roar;
And he wore a smile you could see a mile, and said: "Please close that door.
It's fine in here, but I greatly fear, you'll let in the cold and storm —
Since I left Plumtree, down in Tennessee, it's the first time I've been warm."

There are strange things done in the midnight sun
By the men who moil for gold;
The Arctic trails have their secret tales
That would make your blood run cold;
The Northern Lights have seen queer sights,
But the queerest they ever did see
Was that night on the marge of Lake Lebarge
I cremated Sam McGee.

Friday, April 23, 2010

April 23, 2010

Dad passed away this morning at 9:30 AM EDT at the Hospice Care facility in Elkins.
  • Mom and other family members were by his side.
  • Mom seems to be coping well.
  • He went peacefully.
Dad's specific wishes were for there to be no memorial service. Rather, he wanted us to throw a party. We will honor that wish. Plans for a celebration of Dad's life will be posted on this site.

I can't begin to thank you enough for your many prayers, warm thoughts and loving support that you have shown Mom, Dad and the rest of us over these past months. We will be forever grateful.

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

April 21, 2010 - Elkins

Dad is generally settled in at Hospice Care of Randolph County, located in on Diamond Street in Elkins.
  • After a false start early in the day, Dad arrived in Elkins at about 6:00 PM, Wednesday.
  • The first transportation service didn't have the right ventilator equipment for the trip, but that problem was pretty quickly resolved by the good folks at Select Specialty Hospital - Montefiore.
  • The trip from Pittsburgh to Elkins went well, particularly in that it was uneventful. Mom rode in the ambulance (front seat) and allowed that it was a very smooth ride.
  • Hospice Care is located in a comfortable, new facility. Our first impressions are positive.
  • Friend Dave was kind to visit shortly after Dad's arrival.
  • Visiting hours at Hospice Care are not restricted - feel free to pop in anytime.
Thanks to all for your prayers, support and encouragement. Please continue to lift Dad up in prayer for a miraculous healing, as well as for him to have peace of mind in his circumstances. Also, please remember Mom and Dad that they should each have strength and peace as they face this trial.